Sinless v. Sinning Less

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We talked a post or two ago about the message of 1st John and one way it deeply challenges me: namely, by equating our treatment of people with our true love for God (regardless of what we might say or think to the contrary!).

But this wasn't the first and only way that this epistle has challenged me in my faith journey.

Allow me to explain.

My first exposure to the book of 1st John was through my college roommate and her church's campus ministry.  Without bringing up labels or denominational names (which usually serve only to divide), I'll just say that she and her church believed that to be a Christian is to be without sin.  Her campus ministry friends were often seen on the main campus thoroughfares, drawing large crowds as they preached very frankly about sin, death, and hell.  They would unequivocally call out people waiting outside the local bars on Friday nights, calling them sinners and urging them to repent to escape the flames of hell.

In truth, my roommate and her campus ministry challenged me in profound ways.

First, it gave me admiration for the courage these college students exhibited to stand up against the worldly culture around them and boldly proclaim Christ.

Secondly, it made me examine my own theology about sin in the life of the believer.

Thirdly, over quite a bit of time, it gave me a better perspective on the biblical view of sanctification.

That's a lot to cover for one blog post, so I'll just hit the most impactful aspects of these considerations in my own experience.

1st John makes a LOT of bold statements about the Christian life.  Here's a sampling of just a few:

"And by this we know that we have come to know him [Jesus], if we keep his commandments.  Whoever says 'I know him' but does not keep his commandments is a liar, and the truth is not in him...By this we may know that we are in him: whoever says he abides in him ought to walk in the same way in which he walked." 1 John 1:3-6

"No one who abides in him [Jesus] keeps on sinning; no one who keeps on sinning has either seen him or known him....Whoever makes a practice of sinning is of the devil...No one born of God makes a practice of sinning, for God's seed abides in him, and he cannot keep on sinning because he has been born of God." 1 John 3:6,8-9

At first blush, these verses seem to say that a true Christian does not sin.  And the challenge for me,  as a Christian college student, is that I knew that I did sin.

Often.

I would routinely overeat at mealtimes (yep, I fell into that "freshman 15" statistic of packing on some weight that first semester or two), entertain lustful thoughts about classmates (I was in a male-dominant major of science and math), and study for long hours on the Sabbath (bona fide "work" for a student)...just to name a few sins off the top of my head (two decades later!).

You see, as a college student, I knew Christ had radically altered my heart before I started middle school, and yet I also knew that I sinned on a daily (hourly?) basis.

And these two facts just did NOT jive with what I seemed to be reading in 1st John and hearing from my college roommate and her ministry friends.

Soooo, I shelved 1st John for a bit.  Okay, for a long time!  I've read it through in my Bible reading plans, but I've never stopped to study it until this year while doing this study by Kelly Minter.

And dear friend, I understand it a lot better now, and hope that you will, too.

What I have come to understand from John's epistle is that he is discussing habitual, coveted sin patterns.  I've come to place the quoted verses above alongside other verses in his epistle, like those quoted below, to get a fuller (and I'd argue, more biblical) perspective on sin in the life of the believer.

"If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."  1 John 1:8-9

"My little children, I am writing these things to you so that you may not sin.  But if anyone does sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous."  1 John 2:1

I see now that in light of these verses, John is not saying that a Christian is sinless.  Instead, these verses speak to the fact of being honest with the sin we DO see in our hearts and confessing them to God on a regular basis.  He speaks, as a father to his children, about the amazingly GOOD news that we have an advocate to the Father through Jesus the Son (side note: the Apostle Paul speaks about Jesus interceding for us in prayer (see Romans 8:34) and the author of Hebrews speaks about Jesus as our High Priest, allowing us to approach the throne of grace with confidence (see Heb 4:15-16)).

In effect, 1st John is not making the case that Christians are sinless, but that, as we grow more to be like Christ (i.e. progressive sanctification) we will delight to follow God's law and sin...less.

No doubt about it, John's first epistle packs a punch.  Am I surprised?  This beloved disciple saw, touched, and heard Jesus in the flesh (AND saw him transfigured in all His glory!) and was part of Jesus' most intimate inner circle of apostles.  Of course, he brings a lot of hard-hitting truth to share because he lived it and breathed it!  But I thank God that He provides for all that He requires--both in our personal hearts, and in the way we love and treat our fellow man.

(Note: We've talked a lot on the blog about the counter-intuitive reality of becoming more aware of our sin, the more we grow in our faith. If you'd like to learn more, be sure to check out this post, this one, and this one here.)

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Cleaning Rhythms: Reclaiming Time, Joy, and Sanity

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As a family who values hospitality and homeschooling, we use our home a LOT.  Our kitchen is where we prepare meals, gather with friends, and conduct science experiments on any given day of the week.  Our den (family room) is a landing pad for snuggling on the couch with a good book or movie, but also serves as a gathering place for weekly small groups and bible studies and functions as a study hall, board game parlor, and wrestling arena for the kids and cats.

All of this wear and tear, love and abuse, can make my head spin when it comes to keeping a clean home and a sane mind!  I have struggled for years to keep up with caring for our home while cleaning behind three active children and two pets, all while maintaining an active lifestyle.  I never want to be slave to cleaning and caring for my home, but it is something that needs to be maintained regularly, and I want it to be a haven for peace and calm.

For over a year now, we have settled into a few cleaning rhythms that have worked well for my family, and I'd love to share them with you today.  Please do not misunderstand me--this is certainly not the only way, the best way, or a perfect way (what IS perfect?) to clean a home, but it has been a life-saver and a game-changer in our household.  Before these rhythms were established, certain household tasks were often neglected (cleaning ceiling fans and kitchen appliances) OR when they did get done, they left me completely drained, exhausted, and dreading the next time I would have to tackle them (yes, I'm talking about you, windows!).  In many ways, these cleaning rhythms have given me back time in my day, joy in my heart, and sanity of mind!

Now, I intentionally call these cleaning "rhythms" and not "systems" because in my view, rhythms work with your family schedule and are a natural outgrowth of routine habits.  I give myself *grace* with these rhythms, and if you experiment with them in your own home, I want you to give yourself lots of grace, too.  If something doesn't happen this week (or month), at least it is on my radar to complete at some point soon (instead of being neglected for--true confession--years).  I have found these cleaning rhythms to be kind and gentle; I do not feel like a slave to them.  Rather, they serve me as an unobtrusive guide to my days, weeks, and months.

There are two parts to these cleaning rhythms: daily/weekly and monthly/annually.  Allow me to share about both in turn.

First, let's talk about our daily/weekly cleaning rhythms.

Over the years, I have tried a multitude of weekly cleaning schedules and lists (Pinterest and general internet searches will glean hundreds!) and they were all too complex for me to realistically make into a lifestyle.  Instead, I do this: I keep a running list in my head--super simple, so that it is easily remembered, and super-doable so I feel like I can make progress towards keeping a clean home.

My weekly rhythm looks like this:
  • Monday: Laundry (wash, fold, put away--kids do their share of putting away); water indoor plants
  • Tuesday: Clean two bathrooms (sinks, toilets, change out towels, and empty trash cans only...I save showers/tubs/floors for a later time, but we will cover that in a bit)
  • Wednesday: Dust and vacuum master bedroom and upstairs hallway; kids complete their room cleaning checklists** (Result: entire upper level gets clean at the same time--Ah-maz-ing!)
  • Thursday: Clean other two bathrooms (my house has four bathrooms, so I divide this task into two days)
  • Friday: Laundry (see Monday); scrub kitchen sink 

Now, you might be thinking: that sounds like a great start, but how does your living room get dusted and vacuumed, dishes washed, trash taken out, etc?

Great questions.

Many of these daily tasks are either done in the moment as needed (ex: loading the dishwasher after a meal, taking out the kitchen trash when the can is full) OR handled by the kids. (If you missed my previous post about cleaning with kids, be sure to check that out here.)

Here's our current cleaning rotation for the kids (ages 8,10, and 12):

  • Empty dishwasher (daily)
  • Dust and vacuum main living areas (den, living room, foyer) (weekly)
  • Clear the kitchen table after meals (three times a day)

As you might have noticed, more time-consuming duties happen less often, while quicker jobs happen more frequently.  For the past two years, this rotation has worked well for our family, and it seems to be a fair distribution of responsibility for the kids, regardless of their month's particular tasks. They also clean their own rooms weekly (as noted above) and clean out kitty litter boxes, too.

So that covers the daily/weekly stuff.

The second cleaning rhythm in our household involves deep-cleaning and includes monthly, seasonal, and annual cleaning tasks.  Each month, I jot down seven cleaning tasks on the side of our family's monthly calendar (which is in clear view in our kitchen).  When there are a few spare minutes in the day, I (alone or with a child) will tackle a task and scratch it off the list.  (If the task gets completed twice in the month, awesome.  But at least I know that it will get done once and that is enough for me at this stage of my life.  You may look at this list and feel differently; that's perfectly OK--you do you, as the saying goes.

Here's our monthly list right now:
  • Steam mop the kitchen floor and foyer
  • Steam mop bathroom floors
  • Change and launder kids' sheets
  • Clean master tub and shower
  • Clean kids' tub and shower
  • Vacuum carpeted stairs
  • Dust/vacuum finished basement

Now, for the annual cleaning tasks. For each month of the year, I've chosen a particular room to deep-clean that makes sense to me, depending upon the time of the year (this is an idea my sister shared with me, given to her from a mentor, so I take NO credit for it!).  For example, I deep-clean our dining room in November to prepare for holiday entertaining, and the den in December after our Christmas tree gets tossed since we are already missing a piece of furniture and the carpet is covered with pine needles.  See how that works?  This is easy to remember (but I do write it down!), and it fits into our lifestyle.

So what does "deep-cleaning" entail exactly?  For us, it involves pushing all the furniture to the center of the room and wiping down baseboards, vacuuming wall-to-wall, wiping down ceiling fans or chandeliers, taking window treatments down (I throw them in the dryer on an air fluff cycle and then rehang), washing comforters/bedding, cleaning windows, dusting thoroughly, and decluttering/donating (as needed).

Here's our annual tasks at a glance:
Jan—Foyer and stairwell chandeliers (new year, new lights!)
Feb—Master bedroom (Valentine's month)
Mar—Living room
Apr—Kitchen (includes appliances—fridge, oven, microwave)
May—Windows (any that have not been cleaned as part of other rooms)
June—School room (school is out of session by now)
July—One child’s bedroom (kids have lots of time to help)
Aug—Two other children’s bedrooms (ditto)
Sept—Storage area (in time for fall neighborhood yard sale)
Oct—Garage and outdoor shed (sweep out those leaves)
Nov—Dining room (holiday entertaining)
Dec—Den (cleaning after Christmas morning extravaganza)

So with these daily, weekly, and monthly cleaning rhythms, *most* of the house gets cleaned on a very regular basis.

What I love most about these cleaning rhythms is that they allow for REST. What do I mean by this?  Let’s say I have a few spare minutes on a Thursday afternoon.  Unlike when no cleaning rhythms were in place, I am no longer riddled with guilt or indecision about what I could be/should be cleaning in that moment. Should I get some laundry done? Is the bathroom presentable for small group tonight? I can, with peace and confidence, brew a cup of coffee and sit down with my feet up.  Why? Because I know the toilet just got cleaned yesterday and the laundry will get done the next morning.  Or, if I knock out two bathrooms on a Tuesday morning (either alone or with the kids' help), I know that I am DONE with household cleaning for the day.  Awesome.

Keep this in mind, too: start slow and like I said before, show LOTS of grace to yourself, and your children, as you all establish cleaning rhythms in your own home!

I hope this post has been helpful for you, dear friend.  I am the kind of person who wants to share anything and everything I discover that helps me keep my household running well, redeems my time, and fosters rest and sanity. If any of this feels burdensome to you, by all means, don't use it!  But I have found these rhythms to be just the right amount of structure and flexibility to serve my family well.

(**Hey friend! As mentioned above, if you missed my previous post about cleaning with kids, be sure to check that out here.  I love to use natural cleaning products when I can, so check out this and this post to learn more.)


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A Balm for the Soul

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So often, I wonder why I sit down, taking time out of my hectic week, to pen a reflection here on the blog.

What do I have to say that is important?
What do I have to say that hasn't been said a thousand times already (and probably better!)?
What impact could I possibly have in a world that is shouting and angry, lost and alone?
How can God use me--a fearful, weak sinner--to impart His ancient, profound, and intensely personal truths?

Maybe you feel this way, too, in whatever work God has for you, dear friend.

Well, this afternoon I had the pleasure of knitting and listening to an interview between one of my favorite Bible teachers, Nancy Guthrie, and author Rosaria Butterfield on The Gospel Coalition podcast today.

In the interview, Rosaria shared some parting thoughts that have been such a balm for my soul, and I thought might be an encouragement to you, as well. It is a prayer of sorts--a prayer that many of us believers need to speak over ourselves and our world as we seek to serve and to encourage people, both believers and unbelievers, around us.

Rosaria states:

"Do not be discouraged by what humbles you--remember that what humbles you cannot hurt you. Remember that keeping the word of God alive in the hearts of people is hard work, and it is noble work, and it is Old Testament prophet work, and it is not work that comes with a big paycheck or a “That-a boy!” or a "Thanks."  It is God’s work and it is vital and it's necessary because things are so hard right now.  The word of God is under attack and derision, and sadly not just from unbelievers, but from wolves in sheep’s clothing who claim to be believers, many of them seminary trained with letters behind their name."

She continues:

"If you are listening to this thinking, "What good can I do?”, the world can be changed through the efforts you are putting forward through faith, through grace in love with the Lord Jesus Christ.  God can breathe through that and transmute that far and wide; it is the labor of faithful saints with the sharp Sword of the Spirit, the Word of God, that is going to be the healing balm of life to this world."

And she closes:

"Allow the Word of God to be your balm, allow it to wash over you, allow it to heal your hurts, and allow it to illumine your indwelling sin patterns; feel the sweet peace of repentance and the joy of trials and be transparent about that with others…"

I don't know about you, but I needed to hear that on this Sabbath afternoon.

I want God's Word to wash over me.  And I am passionate about it washing over you, too, dear friend.

I am praying for you to be transformed by the Word and Spirit of God.

You might feel all alone.

But God sees you.

And I am writing for you, praying for you, and holding you close to my heart throughout my week.

I am committed to keep sharing God's word, and will do my best in being transparent with that, as I embrace my weakness and allow God's strength to shine through me. It might be easier in some ways to not log on, to not pen my thoughts and share with you all that I am learning from the riches of God's word.  But I know my soul would just burn if I didn't speak the truth of God and His word over your life, dear friend!

May you feel the love of God on this day.  May you burrow deep into His word and may it be a balm for your soul.  I pray you would hold on tight and that you would lean in and put your full weight on the precious promises of our Savior who is able to save sinners.

It takes faith every day to sit down and write to you.

It takes faith every day to trust Jesus to save sinners--like you and me--through His word.

It takes faith every day to trust God to make us more and more like Him.

But may we press on: learning, growing, seeking, and resting in HIM.

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Loving God = Loving Others

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There's a book in the New Testament that has made me squirm for the past twenty years.

It is a short book actually, tucked way in the back, just before you get to the book of Revelation.

The book is 1 John, a small epistle written by the beloved disciple late in his years here on Earth.

For the first time, I am doing an in-depth Bible study of all three letters written by John, and I am revisiting all those reasons why this book has made me uncomfortable (albeit, in all the best ways).

I think one of the uncomfortable truths that hits me square in the face is this simple message:

The way you love other people is in direct proportion to how you truly love God, no matter what you might say otherwise. 

This truth is written in myriad ways throughout the letter, as John circles back to it over and over again:

  • "Whoever says he is in the light and hates his brother is still in darkness." 2:9
  • "Whoever loves his brother abides in the light, and in him there is no cause for stumbling.  But whoever hates his brother is in the darkness and walks in the darkness, and does not know where he is going, because the darkness has blinded his eyes." 2:10-11
  • "By this it is evident who are the children of God, and who are the children of the devil: whoever does not practice righteousness if not of God, nor is the one who does not love his brother." 3:10
  • "But if anyone has the world's goods and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God's love abide in him?  Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth." 3:17-18
  • "If anyone says 'I love God,' and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen.  And this commandment we have from him: whoever loves God must also love his brother." 4:19-21

John must have had folks like me in mind when he chose to repeat the same theme again and again, using different words and phrases, in such a short letter.

I think this is such a challenging portion of Scripture because I am one who takes biblical theology very seriously.  I have grown up valuing Christian principles, creeds, and confessions.  I study the word of God every day, and I see Jesus as the very anchor of my soul.  I take pains to teach God's word and sound theology to my children.  God’s word is woven into the bedrock of my marriage.  And over the years, by God's grace, I have grown to take my own sin seriously--even those pesky and insidious ones like selfishness and pride.

And yet, when I get to 1 John, I am undone, every.single.time.

My air-tight theology unravels as I lose patience with my children and fail to love them well.

My oft-quoted Christian creeds are nullified when I ignore the needs of those less fortunate around me, both in my own community and abroad. 

What John has to say is just not easy to live out. By both sins of omission and commission, I miss the mark of loving God on a daily basis, as I fail to love others well.

Ugh.

And yet, there is no need for despair, because this epistle mercifully gives us the map we need to run straight to the cure--God Himself, the initiator, and the very definition, of the love that we are called to possess and show to the world.

How can I love this way, dear God?, we find ourselves asking.

And here is the way, clearly spelled out for us:

  • "we [can] love because God first loved us," John assures us in 4:19.
  • "Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God...because God is love." 4:7 (emphases mine)
  • "And this is love, not that we have loved God but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved if God so loved us, we also [can] love one another." 4:10-11 (emphasis mine)

Do you see, dear friend, that God is the initiator of this incredible love?  

Can you see that He alone is its source?

This way of loving reminds me of the covenant God cut with Abraham (called Abram at the time), when he put Abram in a deep sleep and God's Spirit moved among the pieces of the cut animals.  Unlike traditional covenants, where both parties fully participated, God assumed the lead as its sole initiator and keeper (see Genesis 15).

So does this take me off the hook, so to speak, in loving others well?

Of course not--this loving requires a daily, street-level, active participation! But it is an other-worldly kind of love, as I die to my flesh and seek His strength, not depending upon my own ill-perceived strength and will-power.  

This way of loving is not a 50:50 proposition, as I seek to do my part and God does His. (In fact, it is not even a 99:1 proposition!).  It involves taking a huge belly-flop into the only source of love, who enables me to love, as I abide in Him.

So let's review: what is John's message for us in this brief epistle? 

If you say you love God, you will love others and live right.  Period.

We will get to the "live right" piece in another post, dear friend.  For now, will you come alongside me and consider the truth that the way we love other people is a direct reflection of our love for God, no matter what we might say or think to the contrary?

It's not an easy truth to grapple with, but I trust in so doing, we will be driven to our knees and will direct our gaze up to Him, as we seek the source--the very definition--of love, to help us love others well today!

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